I was just sitting here doing some work, and heard a faint, sleepy "Mama" coming from the boys' room. I peeked in and there was Escher, who has been sleeping through the night for quite some time now, laying there on the bottom bunk squinting up at me. I picked him up and he put his head on my shoulder, and I stood there with him, feeling incredibly lucky, knowing that my heart will someday, very soon, ache for moments like these.
And it reminded me of something, of the first time I ever felt the presence of God.
When I was a little girl, I wondered about this God thing from time to time. My father is an atheist, and my mother is Episcopalian. I went to church a handful of times with my mother. I remember loving the singing, but I don't remember much else. We also went to church when we visited Grandma and Grandpa in Indiana. But I don't remember much from that, either, just putting on nice clothes and the feeling of being on display. (My grandmother got to show me off to all her friends; I didn't mind.)
I remember I used to lay there in my bed at home, and I would say things (I'm not sure if it was in my head or out loud) like "Okay, so if there's a God...make that curtain move right now," or "Make that star twinkle." It never did. I remember hoping that didn't mean there wasn't a God. I wanted there to be. But I didn't know anything about it.
It wasn't until after I showed up in Alcoholics Anonymous at the age of 25, that I was around people who really taught me how to find a God. And they didn't care who or what that God was, or what I called it, and they didn't tell me what to do to find it, or what to do with it once I did. They just told me how they did it. Everyone had their own story.
So there I was, probably a couple months sober. I had just moved into the apartment I live in now. My parents bought this duplex so I would have somewhere to live with my little baby Jonas, who was not even walking yet. Was that ever a giant leap of faith...or love...or insanity! Judging from past behavior, I was the last person in the world who ANY reasonable individual had ANY business buying a house for. But there I was, in this big apartment, with not much more than a bed, a crib, a couple of dressers, a table & chairs, and this
baby. I pretended I had a plan, that I knew what I was doing. But really, I had no idea.
I got sober January 11, 2005 (I think it was actually the day after that, but I wisely chose to call it 1/11 so I would remember it better) and we closed on the house a week or two later. I think I moved in sometime around Valentine's Day.
And one night, in that stark, drafty house, baby Jonas was crying in his crib, just him in his tiny crib, in this great big room, echoing. I went in to pick him up. I loved that baby so very much. There was nothing in the world I had ever loved more. It was for him that I desperately wanted to turn my life around, a life that had been in a downward spiral for years. I really didn't give a rat's ass about myself. But that baby-- that baby was worth it. I could take care of his mother, until I learned to take care of myself.
I picked him up and I stood there rocking him, and he put his head on my shoulder, and I felt incredibly lucky. I had nothing, and I had everything. And that's when I felt it. I felt this warm, beautiful, all-enveloping love all around me. It was within me, but it was also beyond me, beyond us. It was God's presence. He hugged my baby and I, as we stood there in that room, and I knew we were no longer alone.
"Without help it is too much for us. But there is One who has all power - that One is God. May you find him now." --Alcoholics Anonymous "
Big Book" Chapter Five: '
How It Works'